Working your way into a woman's heart starts by understanding who she is and what she wants. Understanding how she falls in love means embracing a process that began back when she was just a little girl. Every little girl cherishes a similar fantasy about a knight in shining armor she conceived during the many hours and days spent daydreaming about her wedding. The man she envisions spending her life with was created in the mind of child and molded in the eyes of an adult. A woman's idea of the perfect mate was etched in her heart long before you ever showed up. Once a man fully understands what's inside a woman's heart, he increases his odds of earning a spot in it.
Here are a few fundamentals to help catch the attention of the woman you admire while capturing her heart in the process.
HUMOR:
You'll find humor near the top of every woman's wish list. Women adore a man that not only makes her laugh, but keeps her laughing. Laughter makes every moment more memorable, so women naturally prefer to keep company with a great sense of humor. Each time she reflects back on a funny moment you give her a brand new smile. Life requires some silly time and women warm up quickly to the funny side of any situation. You might be surprised to learn that women will often pass on the eye candy falling for the cute clown instead. If you can bring the funnies, you'll almost always get the girl.
GOTTA HAVE A J-O-B:
The other most frequent list topper is a man with a decent job or the ability to get one. Selling steaks door to door or mattresses out of the back your pickup truck doesn't count. How much a man earns or his choice of profession isn't as important as having a respectable job and steady income. Little girls never dream of Prince Charming as jobless or homeless. Women are attracted to the idea of security, but not providing it. Women are generally compassionate and will likely understand a temporary situation if you recently lost your job. Having a job and supporting yourself should be the priority if you want a real shot at a lasting relationship.
KIND, HONEST & HUMBLE:
Men should never underestimate the intelligence of a woman as most women can see through phony lines and compliments. Women are drawn to the strength of men as protectors which is not the same as ego. No one wants to spend their time with a chronic showoff, know-it-all or braggart. Let the kindness of your actions do the talking for you. Women appreciate honesty and have a third eye for BS. Women prefer compliments that are sincere as well as appropriate and too many can diminish the sincerity. If you want to fall off a woman's radar at stealth speed spend an evening inflating your own importance. Woman are drawn to compassion and kindness, so a man's ability to be gracious and humble goes a lot farther than toting his credentials or reciting his resume. We care more about who you are than what you do.
PASSION:
Passion in a relationship is important. Women love attention especially when there is a lot of sexual chemistry stirring. Let a woman know you want her subtly. Keep the mood intriguing adding a light flare of mystery. Be careful not to be crude which can quickly turns things sour robbing the air of any positive atmosphere you spent time creating. Women enjoy sweet words, enticing glances, soft whispers and light touches as opposed to vulgarity or commands. Passion is created in a moment of desire based on the mood. Men need to treat a woman like a lady before they takes things to the next level. Women don't fantasize about falling in love with a raunchy porn star, so make sure you create a mood that says sultry instead of sleaze. Passion will bring fire and fire warms a chilly heart.
BE REALISTIC:
Make sure your idea of the perfect woman is realistic. If you are a coach potato that doesn't participate in daily hygiene and could easily afford to lose 50 lbs then getting a super model to fall in love with isn't a realistic goal. People tend to look for the same qualities and attributes in themselves. An athlete appreciates the hard work it takes to stay in top shape, so they usually desire a partner with the same philosophy and drive. A physically active or highly spontaneous person is likely to get bored with a home body. Keep it real and your chances of getting the girl greatly improve as you cannot expect more from someone than you are yourself prepared to give.
COMMUNICATE, BE INTERESTING:
Try to have something interesting to say as communication is essential in any lasting relationship. Make sure she knows that she is not the only one responsible for sharing information. You don't have to be the best conversationalist in the world, but make an honest effort to contribute. Women can appreciate a good conversationalist especially if the person you are attracted to doesn't share a lot of the same common. Be the first to open the door by sharing what you know.
ABOVE ALL, BE YOURSELF:
Perhaps the most important thing is to always be yourself. If you have to act like someone else to get your girl you're not going to keep her once the real you shows up. If she think she's falling in love with Paul and Stanley eventually shows up there's bound to be trouble in paradise. Her feelings can evaporate quickly when you turn out to be someone other than she thought she was getting. If you hate horseback riding and she loves it it's wise not to pretend to share her passion as the truth will surface. Always stay true to you.
In the real world most women will easily fall for a guy who is responsible, treats them well, listens, communicates and is the best man that he can be. Women want husbands they can respect not another child to raise. Showing her that you can take care of yourself will show her that you can take care of her. Have something genuine to offer and do your best to make her laugh. The rest will happen on its own if you truly put forth your best effort. Now go get your girl.
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